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Question: "So what's wrong with sex?"
Answer:
Lots of people have the idea that evangelical Christians think sex is inherently dirty, sinful, perhaps a necessary evil, but certainly not to be appreciated and enjoyed. But just the opposite is true. Secular research has shown that couples who enjoy their sexual relationship the most are married evangelical Christians. Surprised? You shouldn't be, and here's why.
Sex was God's idea in the first place. He created us male and female for a reason! He made sex to be pleasurable as well as powerful. Sex is powerful, both in its ability to profoundly unite two people and also in its creative potential in bringing new life into the world. When a couple commits in love "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part," they are declaring to one another, before God and their family and friends, that they are taking responsibility for one another in love, no matter what the future brings. That is exactly the context of committed love that God intends for the fulfillment of our sexual nature. And that's why, when we are rightly related to God and totally committed to our spouse, sex can be wonderfully satisfying.
Looking at the university campus scene, obviously there's a lot of sex happening. But is it really satisfying? Ninety-one percent of college women nationwide say that "a hook-up culture" defines their campuses. A report entitled "Hooking Up, Hanging Out, and Hoping for Mr. Right: College Women on Mating and Dating Today" indicates that casual sexual encounters are a large part of college life. A "hook-up" is defined as when a girl and a guy get together for a physical encounter but don't necessarily expect anything further. Hook-ups almost always happen when both have been drinking or are drunk. According to the Independent Women's Forum, 40% of the women surveyed had experienced a hook-up, and one in ten reported having done so "more than six times." But 63% of the women want to meet a future husband at college and 83% say that marriage is a major life goal.
Radio and television commentator Dr. Drew Pinsky has pointed out that the desire women have for commitment in the face of so many sexual encounters suggests that college women are afraid to assert their true wishes. Dr. Drew once said on ABC News' Good Morning America that the college campus is a young man's perfect world. "For the men," he said, "this is a very comfortable situation. I tour the country and speak to colleges all across the land, and I'll tell you that women are at best ambivalent about that and very commonly disillusioned." Doesn't sound very fulfilling to me. You and I weren't created to mate like dogs, in meaningless serial relationships. We are made in the image of God, and He has higher, more exalted purposes for us.
Perhaps the college sex scene is like the Emperor's New Clothes. Con artists had convinced the Emperor and his court that the clothes they were spinning for the Emperor were of purest gold, but they could only be seen by those who were wise. Of course, the Emperor wanted to be wise, so when they fit on him the non-existent clothes, he pretended to see them and admire them. His court, also not wanting to be thought fools, pretended to see them as well. Finally, in the majestic parade through town, as the Emperor walked in his underwear, all the citizens pretended to see the clothes, too. All, that is, except one, who said, "Hey! The Emperor doesn't have any clothes on!" Maybe it's time for some courageous UCSD women and men to wake up and be honest: "Hey! Something's wrong with the way we're doing sex!" Got the guts?
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